Are you suffering from dating exhaustion? Tired of swiping right to disappointment? Kissed too many amphibians in princely clothing?
Well then there was AfternoonHandDelights.
Yes, AfternoonHandDelights. We met at a dress up party with a bad taste theme. I was wearing a virgin stained wedding dress. He was wearing red fishnets and a dead animal jacket. Good conversation starters. It was a boozy fun-filled night with plenty of raucous inappropriate behaviour and neighbourhood complaints, and within a few days following I found myself in a relationship. He was a construction worker, looked damn good in a dusty paint-spattered singlet, loved hiking, rock climbing and being outdoors, had a thoughtful mind and enjoyed a good debate, idolised the poetry and music of Tom Waites, had traveled extensively through and loved North-East Asia, and cooked the best stir fry I have tasted to date, and could always be found at a his favourite city pub at 5 pm on any week day with a cold pint in hand surrounded by fellow dusty paint-spattered friends. A stereotypical Australian guy with a soft edge. Note: After a few weeks of dating I became increasingly aware that during intimate moments AfternoonHandDelights didn’t seem to enjoy spending time in my nether regions, ie. discovering my pearl, having a boxed lunch, kneeling at the altar, dining at the Y….let’s just say he told no climactic tales with his tongue. Ah, you win some, you lose some. But apart from that he was an Adonis in the bedroom and I felt very lucky all wrapped up in his bronzed, sun-loved limbs.
And so, it was love with one less benefit. Breakfast in bed, weekends away camping, games of beery pub darts, and summer afternoons of lying in front of the fan listening to Tom Waites drawl whilst deep in each other’s minds. We even had family visits only 5 months in. It was all very serious, picture perfect, and just fantastic.
One evening not too long after meeting the parents I was invited for dinner at AfternoonHandDelights’ abode following a long day of online study. I had a few documents that needed printing and as I had no printer of my own my bronzed tradie kindly offered that I use his. When I arrived the heavenly smell of some delectable Chinese broth was pervading the air and with my tastebuds tingling I sat down at his computer to finish my work. He set everything up for me and left me to print away while he attended his delicious concoction. Now, having never used a MAC before that moment I went to click on the icon that I imagined would enlarge the screen. Incorrect choice. It was instead the icon which unfurled a long sordid list of recent downloads of the pornographic kind, and their rather descriptive and transfixing titles. “Bare-backing”…”ladies with balls”…”my well hung girlfriend”. Waaaaaaaaah!! And as I goggled, unable to look away from the detailed captions I noticed an alarming theme. Each involved transexuals of the Asian male kind who had not yet committed to sex reassignment surgery. Coincidence? Perhaps he had just a momentary afternoon curiosity? I lost all feeling. This wasn’t how I imagined the evening beginning but it also potentially explained his lack of attachment to my lady parts, his love of South-East Asian cuisine, and those red fishnets. And each to his own taste but unfortunately being intimately involved with this man made me wonder if perhaps he might prefer if I came with a dingdong. Hurt, confused and somehow strangely relieved I discussed my findings with AfternoonHandDelights. Even though in a state of awkward denial, it became clear that the Asian transsexual fantasy was his thing. And thus apparently to me, I wasn’t. A sayonara was in this case the only option, my only grievance being that I also had to say goodbye to dinner.
After some reflection I considered myself lucky to have discovered that I wasn’t the fantasy that AfternoonHandDelights ordered. Imagine if I was to have gone along for years without ever knowing. And I understand the fear that he must have had at revealing his innermost desires but also found it sad that he couldn’t express them and perhaps live them out a little more openly, and honestly. And even though I wasn’t comfortable with his preferences I reckon there would most definitely be someone in the world who would be just A-OK with it. But enough about this wang tugging, broth spoiling, vulva fearing man in tights. Time to create a broth and fill my kitchen with a heavenly smell all of my own. A taste fantasy that I am willing to share.
A taste of North-East Asia
Sichuan Pepper Chicken with Noodles
3 chicken breasts
2 cm slice of ginger
2/3 cup light soy sauce
1.5 tsp Sichuan peppercorns
2 star anise
1/2 cup spring onions, chopped
1 tbsp sesame paste
3 tbsp Chinese black vinegar
1.5 tsp caster sugar
Egg noodles to serve
3 Lebanese cucumbers, thinly sliced
1 tbsp rice vinegar
Coriander leaves to garnish
Place 1/2 cup of the soy sauce, ginger, 1 tsp peppercorns, star anise, chopped spring onions, and chicken in a pan. Add water to just cover, bring to a simmer and cook for 5 minutes. Remove from the heat and leave to poach in the broth for half an hour. Then take the chicken out and reserve a cup of the broth.
Slice the cucumbers and salt. Set aside to drain a little for 10 minutes or so. Rinse and pat dry. Add the rice vinegar. Combine the black vinegar, sesame paste, caster sugar, remaining 1/2 tsp peppercorns crushed, and reserved broth. Toss through with the noodles and place sliced chicken over the top. Garnish with cucumber, coriander leaves and sesame seeds.
Once again I ate everything in sight and only had some dry noodles left over. Well satiated.